You Have an STD. It's Okay.

It Is Normal To Have an STD

There is a very realistic chance that if you are an adult and you are sexually active, than you may have a sexually transmitted disease. STDs are not rare and they do happen to all of us. It’s okay. You’ll be fine. Statistics show that 1 in 4 people have herpes and in regards to HPV, 50% of males and 75% of females contract it at some point in their lives. Between 500,000 and 1 million contract genital warts per year. Unfortunately, because we grew up in a generation fearing STDs, that fear eventually turned into shame and stigma. By coming to terms with the reality of being a sexually active person, we must all remember that even by practicing safe sex, it is still possible to contract something along the way.

Don’t Freak Out

Which brings me to the point of this article: you are okay and there is no reason to feel shame. I also recommend that you should go to a doctor for treatment so that you don’t freak yourself out. Often times doing your own online research only causes even more anxiety. Don’t avoid seeking medical care because you are ashamed or embarrassed. You may feel that nurses or doctors will judge you, but really, you are projecting your own judgement onto them. They are there to help you.

Having an STD Does Not Make You Unattractive

You are still sexually attractive and people will still be interested in dating you even if you have an STD. Liz Lemon doesn’t say it’s a deal breaker and you shouldn’t either. Instead of being nervous and avoiding dating or having sex, be honest with your potential partner. When low self worth kicks in, you will attach to something that you think is unattractive or not likable or lovable, therefore you may feel embarrassment or shame. People may be nervous at first to hear the news, but if they reject you, it’s only because they are uneducated and need to be informed about how to take precautions. More often, your partner will understand what you are going through because they have dealt with a similar situation before, either having an STD themselves or a past partner with one. Communication is key.

Just Be Honest and You’ll Be Okay

So, you have a STD, but guess what — you can still be fulfilled and happy in a relationship. There is no need to feel guilt or anger. Remember that you have so many other positive aspects about you and the fact you have a STD does not sum up your life. People can and will see that you have so much more to offer. Don’t let the shame or embarrassment get in the way of your life. It’s not like you call potato chips a vegetable or you’ve appeared on “To Catch A Predator” on dateline. Right? Because that would be a deal breaker.